May 20, 2012

Accepting, Forgiving and Moving On, after an Affair.

The trauma that infidelity causes in a relationship should never be underestimated. It can make all the time and energy invested in that relationship seem pointless now that one of the parties has looked for happiness with someone else. The question many in this situation ask is how to survive an affair? In some cases despite the mistrust and the resentment affairs may cause the affected individual chooses to remain in the relationship. It’s not an easy decision and it is a long painful road to take, especially when the reason for the affair isn’t clear. On the other hand some couples prefer to end the relationship and sever all contact after the affair hoping never to be hurt by someone again.

Getting to the root of the cause of the affair is vitally important even if the relationship doesn’t continue. One of the first steps in the quest of how to survive an affair is to readily admit the wrongs. Why did it happen? When did it happen? Even if you don’t want to hear the answers. You need to take time to absorb what has happened. If you want to talk about it, do so, but avoid being verbally or physically abusive as this only makes the healing process more difficult. Talking about the affair is the first step to recovery.

You may find the following articles useful:

Forgiving an Affair and Moving On  When you discover that your partner is having an affair it is normal to feel shocked and numb.

Surviving Infidelity: 3 Tips On How To Deal With Your Anger  One of the most common emotions people experience in surviving infidelity is anger. Its important to first have an understanding of what anger really is.

Getting Past Infidelity – How to Trust My Husband After He Cheated  “My husband cheated on me.” Those words are most likely, the most heartbreaking words a woman can ever say during the course of her marriage.

I Don’t Completely Understand My Husband’s Infidelity, But He Says I Should Let It Go, Should I?  I often hear from wives who are desperately trying to understand the reason that their husband cheated or had an affair.

My Husband Admitted To Real And Deep Feelings For The Other Woman,What Can I Do Now?  I often hear with women who are trying to break the spell that the “other woman” or mistress has over their husband.

Surviving an Affair  I wanted to strangle my husband when i caught him red-handed in an affair.

Getting Past Infidelity – What Are the Stages of Getting Over an Affair?  Infidelity in a relationship causes a pain similar to that caused by a great loss. 

Why Does Forgiveness Often Lag?  Even though God knows we may never fully achieve healing this side of eternity, we’re still asked to try.

 

How To Forgive a Cheating Husband And Live To Tell About It!  The very fact that this question, “How to forgive a cheating husband”, is something you are mulling over in your mind is a good indication that you are going to be able to accomplish this difficult feat.

How To Survive An Affair – Will Your Marriage Survive?  Not all marriages are meant to last and many end up in a divorce. The reasons are many, but most couple split due to infidelity! 

Valuable lessons learnt from husband’s affair  The following is one woman’s account of surviving her husband’s affair and how she came out stronger at the other end.