You are having an affair, you know it is wrong and part of you wants to end it but you can’t seem to stop. Sometimes the lure of someone new seems better than one’s long term relationship that may have moved out of that wild and crazy attraction phase. Maybe the relationship has wilted and suffered over the years. Perhaps the daily demands of a family have thwarted the passion and love that once existed. It is not always easy to pull oneself away from an affair, but it is possible.
How do you end the affair?
Start by thinking about the heartache that will come when the affair is discovered. Affairs don’t usually end until the people are caught, unless you take steps now. Think about the pain your partner will be in when she/he discovers what you are doing. Think of the heartache, the sorrow, the devastation and think of your children and how they will feel about you. Think about how it may be to actually end your marriage, the divorce, the sorrow, the consequences in every area of your life.
Allow yourself to really feel what it will be like. Where will you be when you have to discuss seperation? How will you tell your children you were unfaithful to your family? Where will you live after the divorce? How often will you get to see your children? How will your parents and friends feel about you? What consequences may there be in relation to your religious beliefs? Keep in mind that the person with whom you are having an affair will not seem so wonderful to you once that attraction phase is gone, and in spite of your belief that he or she is your soul mate, those emotions are a result of the endorphins currently flooding your brain… nothing else.
Remember the fact that an affair is a selfish behaviour that puts your pleasure over the love of your partner, children and family and in most cases over ones sense of morality and decency.
If you want to end the affair do so now, today. Do not put it off, it is not fair to anyone including the person you are having the affair with. Having ended the affair it will be up to you then to decide whether or not to confess to your partner :
You may find the following useful:
Stuck in Affair? How to Break Free From an Affair. Being stuck in an affair means that you are unable or unwilling to give up the affair and the person you are involved with either because he provides something that your partner doesn’t or he has qualities that you love or he simply makes you feel wonderful.
What Is The Best Thing To Do After Admitting To Cheating Or Having An Affair? I sometimes hear from people who have just admitted that they’ve been cheating or having an affair and they don’t know what to do next.
My Wife Ended Affair – Will She Go Back to Him? It is an unpleasant situation to deal with when your relationship hits a hard bump in the road, and your wife decides to have an affair with another man.
How to End an Affair One of the best things that you can do when you find yourself cheating on the one that you love is to end the affair that you are in.